I know this may not be a polite topic to discuss, but seeing that religion plays a major part in most weddings, I feel the need to explain why there will be an obvious lack of religion at ours.
You see, I was raised Jewish and Mr Elk was raised Catholic. I went to Hebrew school and was Bat Mitzvahed (though sadly mine was neither spooky nor scary-props to anyone who gets this reference!) and Mr Elk went to Church every Sunday with his fresh off the boat Irish parents. Although neither of our families are uber religious, we were both fairly immersed in our respective religions for most of our childhoods. Although true, the religion thing never really stuck for either of us. We both agree that we do not want religion to be a part of our lives as a family, so it seems only natural that we not include religion in the day we become a family unit.
There is a slight flaw with my plan to ban all religion, though. Being raised Jewish for me was never about religion, but about a culture; a culture I would hate to lose in gaining a husband! There are a few Jewish customs that I really want to see incorporated into the wedding, as I simply cannot imagine my wedding without them! And since my culture is very important to me, I hope to find some Irish traditions to include in the wedding so that the bear and his family have their culture represented as well.
There are some people who aren't thrilled with our plan. Mr Elk's dad for one would much prefer us have a rabbi and a priest. My grandparents, though they haven't said anything, I know would prefer just a rabbi. But in the end, you can't please them all, can you? We want this to be about who we are as a couple, and that means no outright religion.
What do you think? Can I have a secular wedding and still incorporate some Jewish traditions? Or is that just a complete contradiction?
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